A Goodbye Kiss
The Board Meeting had come to an end. Bob starred to stand up and jostled the table, spillinghis coffee over his notes. "How embarrassing. I am getting so clumsy in my old age."
Everyone had a good laugh, and soon we were all telling stories of our most embarrassingmoments. It came around to Frank who sat quietly listening to the others. Someone said,"Come on, Frank. Tell us your most embarrassing moment."
Frank began," I grew up in San Pedro. My Dad was a fisherman, and he loved the sea. He hadhis own boat, but it was hard making a living on the sea. He worked hard and would stay outuntil he caught enough to feed he family. Not just enough for our family, but also for his Momand Dad. " He looked at us and said," I wish you could have met my Dad. He was a big man,and he was strong from pulling the nets and fighting the seas for his catch. When you got closeto him, he smelled the ocean."
Frank's voice dropped a bit." When the weather was bad he would drive me to school. He wouldpull right up in front, and it seemed like everybody would be standing around and watching.Then he would lean over and give me a big kiss on the cheek and tell me to be a good boy. Itwas so embarrassing for me. Here I was twelve years old, and my Dad would lean over and kissme good-bye!"
He paused and then went on," I remember the day I thought I was too old for a good-bye kiss.When we got the school and came to a stop, he had his usual big smile. He started to leantoward me, but I put my hand up and said,' No, Dad.' It was the first time I had ever talked tohim that way, and he had this surprised looked on his face.
I said, 'Dad, I'm too old for a good-bye kiss. 'I'm too old for any kind of kiss.' My Dad looked atme for the longest tine, and his eyes started to tear up. I had never seen him cry. He turnedand looked our the windshield.' You're right,' he said. 'You are a big boy…… a man. I won't kissyou anymore.'"
For the moment, Frank got a funny look on his face, and the tears began to well up in his eyes. "It wasn't long after that when my Dad went to sea and never came back."
I looked at Frank and saw that tears were running down his cheeks. Frank spoke again." Guys,you don't know what I woud give to have my Dad give me just one more kiss on the cheek……to feel his rough old face…… to smell the ocean on him…… to feel his arm around my neck. Iwish I had been a man then. If I had been a man, I would been a man, I would never have toldmy Dad I was too old for a good-bye kiss."
Sometimes we get so busy and caught up in daily life that we forget to be grateful.
We expect everyone to do their share without being asked. The only time anyone hears anything is when a chore has not been completed.
This attitude, over the long haul, will develop very resentful and uncooperative family members.
When life is good, gratitude is easy. It becomes more challenging to be grateful when we are experiencing hard times.
Financial hardship, long-term illness, the death of a loved one and marital strife can all be trying and difficult.
It is hard to find anything to be grateful for. But while pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. We have a choice in how we view our circumstances.
We can turn our he https://m.huzhidao.com/ arts to God and trust that he has a plan for us. We can be thankful for the lessons we learn and the opportunities for personal growth and transformation.
Look at all the people in this world who share the gifts they received during especially difficult times of their life. It is the painful times of my life that have made me stronger, wiser, and more loving today.
I recently attended a powerful seminar on the various levels of energy that a human being emanates.
The presenter identified seven different levels of energy. The first level of energy is defined by feelings of apathy and thoughts of victimization.
A person at a level two energy has feelings of anger and thoughts of conflict.
As a person moves up the energy scale, their feelings and thoughts are more positive.
At level seven, one would experience unconditional love and no judgmental thoughts.
Only God radiates at level seven. The average person emits energy at a level of 2.5. To experience peace and joy, an in- dividual must raise his energy level to 5 or 6.
So how can we raise our energy level and open our heart to joy? One powerful way is to develop an attitude of gratitude.
Look at every- one with grateful eyes. Listen to your heart and the heart of your loved ones. Speak words of affirmation every day of your life. Be grateful for your life with all its lessons and blessings.
The more grateful thoughts and feelings you experience and express the more instrumental you will be in healing the world. And your outlook on life will improve in the process.
“The days that make us happy make us wise.”----John Masefield
When I first read this line by England’s Poet Laureate, it startled me. What did Masefield mean?Without thinking about it much, I had always assumed that the opposite was true. But hissober assurance was arresting. I could not forget it.
Finally, I seemed to grasp his meaning and realized that here was a profound observation.The wisdom that happiness makes possible lies in clear perception, not fogged by anxiety nordimmed by despair and boredom, and without the blind spots caused by fear.
Active happiness---not mere satisfaction or contentment ---often comes suddenly, like anApril shower or the unfolding of a bud. Then you discover what kind of wisdom hasaccompanied it. The grass is greener; bird songs are sweeter; the shortcomings of your friendsare more understandable and more forgivable. Happiness is like a pair of eyeglasses correctingyour spiritual vision.
Nor are the insights of happiness limited to what is near around you. Unhappy, with yourthoughts turned in upon your emotional woes, your vision is cut short as though by a wall.Happy, the wall crumbles.
The long vista is there for the seeing. The ground at your feet, the world about you----people,thoughts, emotions, pressures---are now fitted into the larger scene. Everything assumes afairer proportion. And here is the beginning of wisdom.